Blu, after some thought, I can see why you say what you say. And I agree, this is the perfect opportunity to do my 180. Lets see, I will not ask those questions. Depending on my W’s answer to “what are you hoping to gain from counseling” I will ask or might not need to ask about OW. I will not attend counseling while she’s still “seeing” “dating” or “sleeping” with OW. That I will not tolerate.
So that’s the plan for now, just chat about what she hopes or wants out of counseling. I will listen and validate to the best of my ability. W did leave out Marriage counseling, so maybe she doesn’t want marriage counseling. I guess I will find out tomorrow.
