I am all for going slow and steady!!! I want this to WORK and work RIGHT the FIRST time back. I will certainly ask what her motive for Counseling is, W always asked for counseling, I refused. I feel like If we choose wisely it'll help through her fog, perhaps not. We are meeting tomorrow night. We will discuss her motives for counseling, I am not jumping into anything. which is why I feel it is necessary to continue to live separately at least until we are both ready. This helps me continue my GAL 180s and set the pace.
I see your point of not laying it all out because it may scare her. However, 1. I am confident if it does scare her off, then it's not meant to be & I will carry on without her. 2. I need OW and OM out of our lives. I refuse to even "date" or do counseling if OW is still in the picture. That's a waste of my time, love, energy!!!
Patience will be my biggest struggle. I can do that.
