Yes, I think that's good advice from Peace Today as well. The one thing I would say is if you do decide to go dark, do that for you primarily. It may also have some effect on your situation, but do it first and foremost for you.

I'm not a great fan of blocking calls and texts and so on. But I do think it can be helpful to make technology work for you. I have a couple of email accounts, one of which XH used. I took that off my phone, and so I would check it less frequently. I could also take it off the iPad if I wanted...

In general, I think a gentle and kind withdrawal is a good way to go. Not so much with truth darts, but just minimal and not very available...

But I think the main thing is to extract yourself from the circular and unproductive conversations.

Take care Irish and hope you're having a good day :-)

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
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BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus