Focus on Me and the Boys 10

[Painter]

XW: It's not worth paying to move it and store it here
XW: I don't have the money to do that
Me: That must be tough

Jim, I think you need to just stop trying to validate her when texting, until things settle down. It does not sound like validation. It almost seems hateful at times. I don't think you mean it hatefully, but that's how I would see if I were in her position.

I don't know how to advise you about the holidays, since she lives away from your city.. If you give in to her, then it will be that way for every holiday. It may be, anyway. As you said, next year you will be the one without them.

It sounds sarcastic because it's via text so it comes through emotionally 'flat'. In person, you use tone and facial expression to convey your meaning.

On the kids - if there's a good reason that the agreement is written that way, stick to the agreement. When in doubt, stick to the agreement.

Why didn't she ask for this holiday split before the agreement was signed if that was what she wanted? If she wants to change it, she can pay for her L to make an amendment it and present it to you. Don't give in to her requests with a promise of returning the favor next year.

You're seriously fighting over furniture? It's all marital property, unless you have valuable family heirlooms and ask for them to be kept separate.

Second-hand value of furniture is neglible. Split it evenly and be done with it. She has to take care of her half - not your job to move, store or sell for her.