She moved out...now the work begins...II

[SBJ]

OK, I didn't ask about OM, but I did let her know that there are rumors floating around with the nosy people at our kids schools. Her response was priceless..."People will talk and I'm not worried about it because it isn't a secret." I didn't mention that the rumor was about her leaving me for OM.

As for the family discussions...I'm done with them.

Regarding the D...as someone stated earlier, this is her divorce and at this point she is the one wanting out. I am coming to grips with that fact. It is hard to accept something that you didn't want, but I have to get over that hump.

The funny thing is, Job, that you are right...I do see her as damaged right now. While still beautiful, she looks different, speaks different, and is making no sense whatsoever. Should this continue, I don't know if I will recognize her by Christmas.

I am realizing that this is not about an unhappy marriage...it is about an unhappy person. For whatever the reason, she is unhappy. That has saddened me, but I will have to stand up and move forward without her for now. I will do this for me and my three kids. If she finds happiness away from me, then I will have to find peace with that. If she realizes down the road that she made a mistake, then I will have to figure that out. I just want my kids to be safe, sane, and happy throughout all of this.

Thanks you guys for your 2x4's and advice.