Struggling

[fightin]

Thanks, Maybe. At this point I'm just fighting for myself, for my own happiness and to find myself again, or really for the first time ever. As an adult I've always been attached to someone else, defined myself by someone else and I'm ready to let that go. My W doesn't want a M with me anymore, and we're separating until she can afford to file for a D. I don't want a D so I told her that's on her. I can't really fight for my M at this point, I can only focus on myself and if my WW returns I will have a decision to make. For now it is all about me!

My SS hated his previous step-parent before me, but he and I really bonded and it is turning his world upside down. I know he will be okay though. He loves his mom and he will see she's happy and I know that will put him at ease. I believe your son will be okay with being a SS as long as you choose carefully who that person is.

The not acting on my emotions I'm still struggling with. I don't text my W or anything like that, but sometimes I'm rude to her when we're both at home. I haven't detached yet, but after I move that will be much easier.

Yes I do find it useful. Thank you for the advice!