Me and Mildlife and...III

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Service required. FWIW, IMO, WTF - and all of the above.

I have not requested help in some time (directly) but, seems my sitch is in a new level of bizzaro.

I will pick up with a week ago (no reason, not ordinal). My spouse became very 'text' oriented w/ me. What was just a communication format of "I got him...", "His teacher said.." etc, turned into some actual level of talk - jokes, links, copy cat, etc. Please know I read nothing into it. This continued through weekend and into this week. Tuesday (two days ago) was a big day for son, having tested for a learning disability. Spouse could not make it (not a surprise she put her job first, but this was not the time to choose a higher horse). She came by my place early AM to drop him off. She brought some crab chowder and bread she had made/baked the night before. I was not expecting that...she is an excellent cook. I am actually not bad, but since single I have not given much of a sht to actually do it. Three weeks ago she brought me homemade jam when dropping off son. Anyway, soup - dropped off, son dropped off. Came in the door and wanted a hug, I backed a bit, she came in, kissed cheek, opened w "I love you". This comment was not returned.

Small talk. I put soup away. Now we spoke about son's assessment. She micromanaged... ask this, ask this, ask this. Ummmmmm, listening/not listening. Bye, hug, she kissed cheek, said 'I love you again', This time I responded in kind (perhaps not with enthusiasm I should have since I was willing to respond that way), have a good day. Later, I sent her an email with the info from the doctor. One reply "be sure to copy all this to his teacher" I did not respond. Went on to have an f - ing awesome and unexpected day off from work with my son. We at lunch at a diner, played basketball, did a tree hike, and he hit the playground for an hour and insisted on watching me do backrolls off the pull-up bars.

She has made moves, subtle at best, in the past few weeks to know more of me. I have posted this. Earlier this week she called to tell me about how my BIL was going thru some chit w/ his s11 who was diagnosed with asperger's. Well, one of my best friends had a son diagnosed at the same age, but a number of years ago. I contacted BIL, said I hear this, I heard that, "I know a guy who may be able to help, but that is an offer, if you ask, I will help out" He asked, I called my friend, relayed info back to BIL.

Tonight while in my Grad class. Phone was on silent. I keep it on my desk to look u concepts real quick which pertain to class. She calls, I rejected call. 20 min. Later, break from class. I called back, she asked if her brother called her. "No"
Her, "When he texted you yesterday I bet he did not tell you that he cheated on [his wife] and she found out. She immediately wanted a divorce.
Me, "...ok..."
Her, "I told him you have to tell her everything. And you have to decide what you want. He was freaking out. I told him do you stay with her and spend the rest of your life making it up to her or do you say this is irreconcilable and broken and move on?" She told me he asked why their family was so f'ked up and she said "I do not know, but we definitely have some trust issues. I told him he should not play the victim." So I simply said "Im sorry you ha to go through this, but I have a small amount of time between class breaks. I am going to get coffee. I will speak with you tomorrow".

What can I do with this? Was this a chance to say what I went through, or I did it right by saying what I felt, which was almost nothing and did not feel like more? Or, are these the wrong questions?