It matters to you a great deal. Your belief appears to be forgiveness is ESSENTIAL? I ask if that is your belief?
So I ask what does forgiveness mean to you?
What does it not mean?
To me forgiveness isn't essential. That's my belief.
And it is not necessary to forget either. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting. You may never forget.
Is there bitterness, the need for revenge, are you living in some type of harmony?
Can I recommend the Jeanne Safer book on forgiveness. This book changed my world.
I have no anger, I didn't understand why I had no anger. Surely I should have anger, the thought consumed me that I could not heal unless I had anger. Then I knew, I had let go of the need for revenge, I had let it go. I just wanted the Giggalo gone, he hasn't asked for forgiveness. He keeps on coming like the Terminator. For money, still I have let him go and although there is damage it's my issue.
I have let go of the need to forgive. That need has gone. I don't need to forgive him. I have let go of the damaging feelings of revenge and bitterness. It's happened, I can't undo it and I thank God I found out quickly otherwise the damage would have been greater. I have no need to forgive to live in peace. I wish him well I truly do. I hope things work for him although I suspect they won't.
Consider, have you forgiven but are still holding on to memories? Do you think if you can't forget you haven't forgiven?
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
