Not as sad-Part 2

[Vanilla]

His R with his two daughters is between them and WH.

Not your circus or your monkeys.

You may wish to implement an online calender for your DD, with pickup and drop off times. I don't know how practical a change of locks is if DD is always at home.

However, if your WH has a car you may know he is there before you open the door.

You cannot do NC for one week, NC is as V has done, NC for good. One week is just reduced contact space.

NC means not checking FB, no texts, no emails, no letter, no calls, no intermediary stuff. All interactions is with solicitor only. I do not contact.

At this point I don't think of him as him, he is the Giggalo, a thing not a person. A caricature of a man without substance. I can't even be bothered to discuss him except in the context of the abuse from which I am healing.

My focus is wholly on me and recovery.

My Fins with the Giggalo aren't finished when that's done, it's gone. That's NC, I trust I will never think of him again. Go away and good luck.

It's different when you share a dependant. Don't let that stop you going NC for good, organising through an online calander so he becomes calender dad to DD. Let go of the outcome of R, detatch.

You can stand as long as you like, you can do whatever you want. Your old M is done sweetheart and over. You need a new one with him or another. This one is spent.

And truly it isn't your fault he isn't sorting out his side of the street and his R with his two daughters. It's his circus, his monkeys.

Let him sort it for himself, get out the way. If he rants say to him, your sandpit honey, you sort it for yourself.

Pack his stuff, wrap the lead and post it if he leaves it again so he will have to wait.

You need respite from him and your home space to recover.

I am tempted to say get a taser but as a gentle soul that likely won't wash.

It's time to reclaim your space.

V