I do want to help you but it's hard for me as a betrayed spouse to help a wayward spouse and I don't even know you. That's how bad it hurts us. As I said, you do have an uphill battle but people do get back together even after divorce sometimes. I just wanted to give you that tip. Somehow show her with actions that you do understand her pain and that you are truly remorseful for your past and that you can be a safe partner. I'm not saying it'll save the marriage, nothing might, but it might help.
