Waywards do come back. First step: LET GO

[BluWave]

V, thank you for this. Love, I do. Trust, I am. Forgiveness is where I get stuck. Most things in my life fall into place as I come to understand them. I can dissect and process until I reach understanding. I get it now--I see what happened, but it's the acceptance that gets me. Can I accept what happened if I am not able to forgive. And without those, I don't know if I can have the kind if relationship with H that I want. I want so much more than what I have. While I may never feel the way I used to about him, I still need something as good. Or better.

DDJ, I agree love is a choice. I choose each day to be with H. I try to love him each day as well. But to fall in love again--well how do you suggest I do that? Surrender my heart, but how? I would be a fool if I didn't learn a lesson here--and that he or anyone else can hurt me--anyone can hurt us if we let them-- and really, we can only rely on ourselves in life. I will never need another person.

I read so many threads here about waywards and I find myself more and more thinking that I want the LBS to let them go and move on! Love yourself and value yourself enough to know you deserve better. People keep toting how much they believe in marriage and family, but don't we all? You've got to believe in yourself first! Even if they do come around---they have got to WANT to be with you and they have got to CHANGE their ways. Sitting and waiting or trying to love them is not what brings people back. Love yourself.

My H has done all and more and I still have to heal my own heart and find forgiveness. So please listen to me and start now. Let them go.

Blu