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[DonH]

That helps a lot! It's actually somewhat different than what I thought you were saying and makes much more sense. I had the thought that you were looking for something else and found this guy and just stayed with it when really you were looking for something different all along and he fit the different you were looking for. For me I could totally see falling for someone that was outside of the circles I travel or my typical type but have not been able to force myself to like what I don't like - if that makes sense. Going from a well educated to a street smart with lots of common sense person is something I could do. Accepting a loud-mouth, smoking, truck driver swearing woman would not be.

I'm so very often shocked and even more so disappointed, as I hear how many and how often women accept things they know (sometimes not right away - it takes awhile) they should not. I'll hear women in real life or read on boards like this how their current guy is so nice, listens to them, does things for them, includes them, etc. I'm shocked, (but I get it) that they accepted that or allowed less than they should have in the past but on the other hand I'm thinking, I'm many of those things. I'm the things these women CLAIM to want - especially in OLD as well as in person. They give a list of what they want and it really is me - only when it's standing right in front of them, they don't want it. I'm also shocked and saddened at how many don't want anyone - or so it would seem. I've got an already long and now growing list of seeming great dating candidates that don't want to date me nor anyone else and have not been on a date for many, many years. Then there are those who are rarely without a guy. Not that I'd accept either of that - it's just the frustration of it all in hearing what they want, knowing you are much of that, yet...

But, not about me... what you said makes total sense now. I don't think it opened up a new revelation but it makes me much more understand what you are talking about when you say he's not your typical. All of the rest of it makes sense too. If you're willing to give him a chance, I have to keep hoping someone will eventually do the same with me. Only problem is, will I be interested in them? That seems to be just as rare for me. Oh well.