Don't know where I belong.....

[twinmom]

Job & hawho, thank you. I realize I picked an expensive restaurant downtown. I guess I did so in a kinda passive aggressive way that I know my H & I can swing it but the rest of his family won't pony up the cash for it. Not that they "can't" but that they spend too much on gambling, alcohol & drugs so they don't have it for this.
Because of my 'job' I eat out in VERY high end restaurants often. Like Saturday I'll be at the Waldorf Astoria for lunch..... I enjoy being in the city & so does H. We take the kids to museums & restaurants often.

I used to host because I liked to cook and more than that I loved seeing H so happy. He loved having his family over, and although there was ALWAYS something that went wrong H would get over it & be happy. After H left his family showed their true colors & said/did things that were pretty horrible. Being honest, I have not forgiven them and really want nothing to do with them.

Examples of stressors at holidays...
1. His family is ALWAYS late. Like hours late.
2. His mom forgot a bag & sent FIL back to get it. They live 25min away, FIL doesn't have a driver's license due to numerous DUI charges.
3. They LITERALLY don't put one thing in the trash. I'm the maid, pop cans are left on the floor & tables. Plates are everywhere.
4. His brothers say rude things like asking me if I felt bad for any choices I made during my pregnancy with Lilly that could have caused her GENETIC disorder.... let that sink in, it's a genetic condition. I didn't do anything to cause it.

I will be reading the boundaries threads now because I really need so figure that out quickly. I have no clue what H said to his mom, I was angry and didn't want to fight with him so ended the conversation.