- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
I will be concentrating on what I can control. Changing my surroundings at home so there is no longer a visual reminder of the M - photos being replaced with photos of my S (so there is a positive visualisation instead). I'm also fixing up a bits in the house that need doing.
Sounds great! You might want to consider having one picture of his mother, in your little boy's bedroom. Just a suggestion, since he's so young and with so many changes in his home.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sandi, that's a great idea. Keeping things as straight for him as possible is my main priority.
I'll get that sorted.
My oldest was very distraught when my ex left. Theres a framed picture of them on her nightstand at my place and I gave her a similar framed picture of us to keep when she is at my ex's.
Today is a different day and I can feel a difference to the strength I had yesterday. I still feel stronger than I was, but the intensity had subsided.
I still know that I'll be ok, but today I have such sadness about me. Its sad that I was unable to be the man I should have been whilst with my W as this I'm sure would have resolved (and avoided) a lot of these issues.
I have gained an amount of confidence from my weight loss. I can really notice this and so many people have also made comments...
I do wonder if there was some sort of divine intervention here as I'd have never lost weight whilst still 'happily' married. This separation could have saved my life.
Today I have missed the companionship element of my M - I miss having someone who knows me inside out and someone that I can talk to and confide in.
I will however continue to work on myself and look forward to the time I have my S (day off work tomorrow with him - yay). I will continue to better myself for him (and me) and look forward to the new me being strong and content.
Not looking forward to Christmas (which I guess is a sentiment echoed throughout this place). Roll on the New Year!
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
Everyday the W has our S we FaceTime so that we can talk. He usually goes to bed around 7:30 and the calls get later and later.
Should I say some to her asking to call earlier or would this be "controlling". Or should I be relaxed and just let it be?
When you say, his bedtime is "around 7:30", does that mean just at your house? What is his bedtime at W's? I think it's a good idea to try to commonize it.
That said, if he's going to be at like 745 or 8, I wouldnt think its that big of a deal and, to me, it comes off as controlling. If its 930 or 10, thats a different story.
Just catching up. I'm glad to see that you are enjoying the gym. This is the part of a breakup which can be quite liberating. Women seem to go for makeovers, change our hair (not me! I darent chop my lovely long blonde hair!) or buy new clothes. Men tend to throw themselves into the gym. Obviously, I'm kinda going in the opposite direction- I'm getting fatter (I guess there is a baby in there). But whatever makes you feel good- do it! I also did the redecorating, make the space your own a bit more so there is less memories. I took down some of our pics, but there is some of me, wh and S that S loves to look at. So I took one for him, and left them up so he can look at them. I'll maybe put some up in his room for him.
The occasional blips of sadness are completely normal, we are all there at times. It's all pretty new and you spent a great part of your life with them. Eventually the pain eases and it's no longer the kind of sadness that makes you want to hibernate, but the type where you can feel it, but still get on with things.
You're doing good!
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
