Glad Caliguy had the time to spell out what I was saying.

Plus when you lawyer up and she realises you will not just roll over and everything doesn't go according to her plans,dont be surprised if she is less friendly/chatty.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together