OK so the W called telling that the D papers are ready and that they are going to serve me today...what a wonderful way to start your morning. I have not retained an attorney yet, but have consulted with one. The W is trying to get me to just use her attorney and keep the cost down...she has stated that there are no demands in the papers and that everything says that the parties will agree on everything. I am really struggling with this. Do I retain an attorney to cover my ass and really piss her off more? I understand that at this stage it is about covering my @$$, but I also don't really want to spend $5k either. I also understand that I shouldn't believe much of anything that she is saying.
She is going to take it all and you are worried about pissing her off more??? What is the worst thing she could do ... divorce you??? GET A LAWYER
Originally Posted By: SBJ
After listening to her spew last night about her family, she calls me to tell me about the papers and also to accuse me of talking to her sister about her. I know everyone has said that standing for you marriage is the hardest thing you will do, but this is ridiculous. She is making it easy for me to not view her in a good light any more. I love her more than anything, but I sure don't like her right now.
She is now gone on to the next step ... painting you bad .. this is how she is justifying her actions and leaving you ... all part of this, as hard as it is you have to see it for what it truly is .. her trying to logically convince herself you are the spawn of all evil and misery and in the way of her freedom and bliss.
Originally Posted By: SBJ
She is wanting to fly thru the D...why? To get on with her happy new life? To be able to start a relationship with another man? Who knows, but this D stuff is for the birds. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.
Exactly. That's precisely what she is doing .... if she is divorced then she is FREE to do what she wants, she is high on the rush of 'what could be' and hell bent to get there.
Retain the lawyer ... it will cost you more if you don't ... remember this is HER divorce you are now just protecting yourself as a man should.
