She moved out...now the work begins...II

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j20, roist, and andrew...I am sorry, but changing something that I have always done is very hard to do. We spent everyday together talking about our day and what was going on in our lives and that of our kids. She came over after work last night to get a few things for the T-day holiday and it just sparked her doing the same thing. I listened and did not give any advice. I am trying to GAL and detach, but it is harder to do when they are next to you. I don't want to be friends...I want to be her H, but as you so eloquently put it...she has fired me from that job.

The subject came up the other night as to our T-day plans and she said that things would be awkward if I was at Disney with her entire family while we were going thru this. I know I was going to try and make it work, but now this will be the first holiday in 25 years that I spend without her and the first in 19 years that I don't have at least one of my kids. Kind of weird. I will now be that single uncle hanging around my families nieces and nephews.

I just need to set a boundary for the friend-zone, but how is that done? Maybe spending over a week away from her will make things better...I hope so.