New to the Boards. Marriage in Crisis.

[ngs]

Last night she was planning on meeting the girls for drinks after work. I didn't refuse, object, whine, or make her feel guilty about going. I simply said, "Great, have fun. but would you please do me a favor and wear your wedding ring before you go out? I know it's hard to keep taking it off and putting it back on, but maybe you could wear it around your neck when you're working?" She agreed and nothing else was said.

I believe your handling of her going out was spot on and your initial response of "Great, have fun." as well. But your favor of putting on her wedding ring, could be seen as controlling and I would just caution against requests such as this because it could push her away and undo some of the good that she has started to see. That is something she would need to decide for herself to have a lasting affect. For all you know she could have done it to appease you for the moment only to take it off later when she was out. Maybe she did just simply forget after not wearing it at work. I have been accused of being controlling and know if I would have requested that how it would have turned out. I know the pain, my wife has not worn hers for 6 months.