New to the Boards. Marriage in Crisis.

[Chris73]

(...hit submit too soon!)

For the last 2 days she has not been wearing her wedding ring. In her defense she cannot wear it for work and sometimes just simply forgets to put it back on. Last night she was planning on meeting the girls for drinks after work. I didn't refuse, object, whine, or make her feel guilty about going. I simply said, "Great, have fun. but would you please do me a favor and wear your wedding ring before you go out? I know it's hard to keep taking it off and putting it back on, but maybe you could wear it around your neck when you're working?" She agreed and nothing else was said.

Now I've read a little about Pursuit and Distance and I recognize that my W's softening may be due to my recent detachment...

Whatever you do, do not let your guard down when they are being nice. This is where they attract you back into the game like a moth to a candle. They know that you want them back and will do anything to get you back; and they also know just what strings to pull to get you to pursue them all over again. Stop! Do not pursue or the game will continue on indefinitely!

So I will keep it up and not change my behavior.

We have a MC together on Friday night and then made plans to go out for a drink afterwards. I'm looking forward to it.