I've noticed a lot more strength in myself this week. Its like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, it difficult to explain. I know that I'm going to be ok! Maybe not tomorrow, or next week, or even next year, but I WILL be ok.
The W on the other hand will only start to go through the processes that I've been going through when she moves into her own place. She'll have to learn what life is like without a partner, what its like to be on your own and how hard it is to juggle everything all at once without much support.
(yes it is possible that she'll find someone and I'll deal with that when I need to).
Right now I have an understanding of why some of my previous behavior was deemed as controlling and I can work on that. I accept and own the responsibility for the issues I've caused in the M and will continue to work om myself for me & my S. If one day that an impact on her, then so be it and if not I'll be in a better position myself.
This is today's attitude and I like it for what it is today (I know that tomorrow may be different, so I'll enjoy today for what it is).
Hope everyone else can take some joy from whatever they can.
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016