Don't know where I belong.....

[HaWho]

Twinmom - glad you are safe! We too had an attempted middle of the night break-in back in the spring. Fortunately our big dog was on top of it! I am not sure how your burglar broke in? But one great preventative method that is very low cost, is to put dowels in sliders and in windows. We have them all around first floor windows/sliders. Our burglar tried to open the front door.

As for Thanksgiving, sorry to hear about your kitchen. However, this may be a huge blessing in disguise. You could take this opportunity to course correct in various areas: how you handle Thanksgiving, your MIL and even how you come to a solution with your h.

My advice is that you sit on this for a full day and evaluate how you really feel about doing Thanksgiving every year, paying for everyone this year and about your MIL going straight to your h and talking about you behind your back to him! Be aware that what your MIL did in calling your h is very passive aggressive. And quite disrespectful. Hope your h had your back? MIL is a fortunate woman that her mortgage is 50 bucks! Ha ha. You never asked her to pay the whole bill, after all, just for her meal. Of course, a very viable option, if money is a problem, is for someone else graciously to host and all others to bring a few dishes. I see no one wants to do that because of course, they already have a sweet deal they want to maintain.

Have you read the boundaries thread on here? It can be applied to all aspects of your life, not just your m. Boundaries are for you. Slow down and get in touch with your inner voice.