Not as sad-Part 2

[Molly22]

I'm not sure, doodler. I will have to look into that.

Anything he is paying for the house or whatnot, he pays directly. He will not give me any cash for any expenses nor will he allow me to have any input on what gets paid.

[doodler]

Molly,

One thing I didn't know until mediation is that while my W and I were separated, I was supposed to pay child support based on our income differential. We had a 50-50 split of time with the boys, but I was supposed to pay child support, but I just didn't know that. I didn't notify my lawyer that my wife had moved out so my lawyer didn't know to tell me about the child support payments (I had to pay her a lump-sum at mediation).

If your state laws are similar (I live in Florida), then you may have some legal recourse to collect money from your WH.

[Molly22]

I'm actually Canadian.

I need to speak to a lawyer because I am pretty sure he can't just spend as he likes and I have to account for every penny.

[AndrewP]

I'm actually Canadian.

Is there something in the water up here? We seem to have a lot of Canuks around.

Molly - you can contact the Law Society of Upper Canada and they will put you in contact with a lawyer for free for a short consult. That should get you started.

When you request a lawyer or paralegal referral online, we will give you the name of a lawyer or licensed paralegal who will provide a free consultation of up to 30 minutes to help you determine your rights and options, provided we have a match available.

[Vanilla]

It is important to know your rights, where you stand.

It takes away a lot of stress. Please findo out.

Doodler is very sound on this.

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[Molly22]

I will definitely look into that. Thanks so much.

We had an unintended run in this evening. I came home from a meeting when he should have been gone. Apparently, he forgot his iPad cord and came back in the house. According to him, I am being vindictive and it is my fault that he ds21
And DD20 Don't want a relationship right now. He was ignorant. I cried when I didn't want to .'argh

I'm frustrated. All he does is take Dd for fast food.

You know what? I don't want him
Back. He is not a good person.

[Vanilla]

That's somexactly insight.

Have you boundaries on WH invading your space?

I have to say, I collected the Giggalo stuff and put it in storage.

I no longer want him in my home.

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[Molly22]

How do I set those boundaries? I've tried and he has responded somewhat. He has been taking DD out for some of the visit. How do I set a boundary that I have no consequence for? I can't say he can't see her. I don't want to go the legal route and force it just yet.

My therapist challenged me to one week of no contact. I'm starting today.

[doodler]

How do I set those boundaries?

Regarding the home invasion boundaries, you change the locks on your house to enforce those boundaries. It's inexpensive and relatively easy to do yourself. If you don't know how, then just search it on YouTube.

[AndrewP]

Molly22 - One of the things that I think keeps my W away from the house is a security system that I installed (cameras only). I was able to use old cell phones for the purpose.

You can get the fake cameras for cheap - then just let your H know that you've got a new system in place. It "might" work ....