Wife had affair now moved out

[Wes25]

So I messed up tonight. This week has been a tough one. So I reached out and invited her over for dinner this afternoon. She declined and said she had plans with friends from work. Fine.

I then texted her later in the night and asked her to call me when she got home. She did but I think she thought it was about our D (we share custody, she is with me this week) but I just started a casual conversation. How is work, what's going on there, about my work, etc. Then I asked how she was doing, how things are. I knew she is struggling financially so I covered her car payment this week (comes out of a joint account), she offered to pay it back and I told her to wait till she is in a better position.

I then asked her if she would like to go out on a date. She said she was open to the idea but later in the call back pedaled saying she would rather wait till she had her feet under her. We talked a bit about how we were both doing, I validated a lot of her points and was sure to listen.

But I did slip up. I told her that I love her her and knew that she couldn't say bit right now, that she is still confused. Which she agreed.

I asked her to let me know if there was no chance of us again because it would drastically change what I needed to do to heal. This was met with only silence so I'll take that as Good sign that she hasn't given up yet. We agreed rather than a date we would schedule a weekly phone call just to talk. Throughout the entire convo I was very careful not to being anything up about the A.

We ended to convo shortly after and at first I was a bit disappointed but when I thought of the small victories I guess it was a small glimmer of hope.

We spoke for 51 minutes with no uncomfortable aspects. We talked about a range of things. We agreed to set a date for another convo. She couldnt say that she wanted to end marriage.

I know I broke so many rules especially since I'm in LRT but I felt I needed this for me. I know it was temp checking but this week the unknown is killing me.