Don't know where I belong.....

[twinmom]

Sotto, you are spot on. I do things I don't want to do and have the expectation that H's family will be appreciative/help/contribute and then they never do & I become even more resentful.

I will get that book you suggested because that sounds EXACTLY like me.

I sent the text Job suggested but added in the approx cost per person, didn't get ANY responses. But H got a call from his mom saying how rude I was. She told him that if I was going to have such a fit about money that wasn't even mine (she sees all H's money as his & thinks I should contribute every penny I make to bills as I don't make as much as H) that she would just not pay her mortgage and pay for Thanksgiving...........

So now H is frustrated & grumpy with me and I'm still frustrated I'm going to be spending about $600 on a meal!