As far as the boys behavior in school, are you saying you would like more information on them? If so, I can send you their teachers email address so you may be copied on all issues regarding the boys.
I think this is an excellent idea. Unfortunately she will parent however she chooses, calling her on conversations with your son comes across controlling. Frankly she can discuss whatever she wants and there is nothing you can do about it. She can even have the boys calling her flavor-of-the month Daddy if she chooses. I am not saying this to make you feel bad but to frame this properly, you cannot control anything she does or says with your sons when they are with her. Short of safety issues you have no say in her parenting technique. The best you can hope for right now is parallel parenting, not even co-parenting.
Your best option is to maintain your stready, solid presence when they are with you. You are their only consistent presence right now. I liked that you came up with a solution based answer to her dig, having her copied on school and medical meetings is a fantastic idea.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
