Maybell 40

[DonH]

You sound much more positive and the info you added makes way more sense. I think this has happened before, several times actually, including when you were trying to help me. The way you put it here paints a much more clear picture, at least to me. I can tell you without a doubt that being cautious, taking it slow, doing all you can to ensure no one gets hurt... Those are all things I very greatly value and am so glad to hear for you. I think you are doing well with all of that! A year is not all that long but in terms of an R it most certainly is a benchmark and milestone. In many ways I'd worry more if you were not in love by this point - unless it was much more a casual R. As for the chaos of balancing three kids in the mix - especially a new teen - wow, that's going to be hard. It's great the two of you are trying to address it, just don't be too disappointed if it's hard to change. It's a difficult balance where the kids really have to come first.

I'm so glad you responded again and feel so much better for you - probably because I understand more what you are staying. There is no rush here - as long as he's not expressing one. You seem to be developing at a good pace, you enjoy being together and you seem to be happy. Don't pressure yourself for more. I just said this to Ginger and will say the same to you, you seem to be very willing to look at yourself and change when needed. Many people fight to admit anything even needs a look much less a change. You seem very willing to do that - at least as soon as you calm down from your first reaction.

Very encouraged and happy for you. Should you be willing sometime, you've mentioned multiple times how this guy is not your typical type, how he brings different things to the table than you are used to. I remember you saying he is not as "flashy" as typical guys, but not much else in the way of detail. Should you be willing, I'd love to hear how some of the other things are also different. I most certainly would not ask you to talk about things you are not comfortable with, but have the feeling many could learn from your expierence of how going outside a normal type is actually a good decision and can work. I know I would as its one thing I continue to struggle with. I am able to push myself to give a wider variety of people a chance but in the end I just like what I like and am attracted to what I'm attracted to - and it just doesn't happen much. When it's not there it's just not there and when it is, I feel miles ahead in attachment. How did you fall in love with someone who is not your type? That sounds like huge growth right there! I'd love to hear more sometime if you are willing.

Always great to hear from you Maybell!!!