WW Wife - Do I confront her?

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GB,

Your insights on this are absolutely spot on. I will read your post many times per day and remind myself that every word you wrote is true. I guess the reason that I am hesitant is that I keep trying to convince myself that if the A ends on its own, she would be more open to working on the MR and once we were in some sort of reconciliation, I could slowly begin to ask her if she had been seeing anyone and see how she reacts in a more safe environment. But again, I know that is me just dreaming of any scenario other than confrontation.

I am just in preparation mode now and trying to make sure that if and when I do confront, I am ready for anything that she can throw at me. I want to make sure that my emotions don't get in the way if she starts lobbing spew at me that I was not ready for.

Thank you guys again for the wonderful insight. I really wanted to wait until after the holidays, but I might not have a choice to wait that long.