W had A and broke it off soon as I confronted her

[Steady9]

I am working on forgiveness - giving up all hope for a better past
and
empathy - recognizing that my W felt isolated or alone and needing something... that she was unable to find at the time or unable to find her own happiness at the time....

And humanizing her, she felt other people may be needed to make her happy and maybe tomorrow she will see that it is up to her to find happiness from within...

And learning to let go....I did a lot of work to pull data together to show her I knew so she could not deny deny deny.... and she would either leave the M or stay with the me --I think she never planned on leaving the M now, but she was so sneaky etc for 9 months and it pains me today and I feel stupid for not catching on earlier.... so I am working to let it go.....

Progress has been made but I still have a ways to go. I slept pretty good last night for the first time in weeks... or longer.....

My W is remorseful and friendly and nice etc today.... much better than the last few years... so trying to live in the moment.

Those are the handful of things I am working on.