New LBH with WAW/Possibly WW, help Part 2

[nutts]

OK, some updates to my sitch.

I'm confident there has not been another OM since I exposed the last one. We've been separated, her doing her thing, me doing my thing.

I don't ask what she's doing or with who, however, she's still asks me what I did or with who. I always give vague answers, "Just went out with some people." She'll still occasionally ask "who's that?" when I receive a text message, and I'll typically not say anything. She doesn't get mad when I do this.

She took a flight to visit her friend last weekend. On saturday, I get a text from her "I got you some goodies", I said, "oh what am i getting?" she says, "a new wallet and cologne." (I had mentioned I need a new wallet, and I had asked her in the past if she likes when guys wear cologne, and I only have 1 bottle of some really old stuff."

I didn't know what to think. I was glad she was thinking of me, but, I didn't want to take it the wrong way. How should I feel about ti? I replied STTE, I really appreciate it, but I am confused why, considering our separation. She said, oh, just being nice.

Oh the way home form work yesterday (W got back yesterday), I stopped by and got plain-jane potted flowers, 11 dollar kroger special, but with a thank you note just to show her I appreciate she got me those gifts. When I gave them to her, her face lit up with a huge smile and she looked up at me, but it quickly went to a normal, happy face. I could tell she really liked that I had done it, but then didn't want to show it. She said, "thanks, you didn't have to." I said, "I know, but you didn't have to get wallet or cologne either."

Other things, a month ago W said, emphatically, "I'm not going to your family's thanksgiving, I want to be gone before then!" Well, I talked to my mom, and my mom said W was planning on coming to thanksgiving and was going to fix the deviled eggs (I was on the hook for those, thinking she wasn't coming). I don't want to read anything into this.

Last night, we were talking, and I mentioned how I was on the hook for the eggs, and she said, oh I'm making them. I said, I thought you weren't coming, she replied, well, i haven't made up my mind yet.

However, with all that said, before she left we had a talk about getting lawyers to go over our sitch. She had contacted a lawyer and is going to see her today. Originally, she wanted both of us to see her, but that's not legal, she even offered I see the lawyer since I asked good questions, but I couldn't do that either since she had already contacted the lawyer.

We had a big discussion about this, as we want to be amicable and have an uncontested divorce. We're being nice about the discussions right now, just want a fair split, and joint custody. She's going to tell me what they talked about today, and go fomr there.

I too spoke to a lawyer, fwiw, and have one when needed.

I had asked, when do you want all this stuff to be done, she says, "oh, no hurry, sometime next year if you want."

I'm honestly trying not to read anything into this, but it's hard. Maybe she's just being super nice so I don't get over worried about everything; that's a distinct possibility and I'm going to keep it in my mind.

For now, I'm going to keep doing the same, but, when she had that big smile on her face, it did feel good for just a second there.

Good luck to all, and thanks.