Still hanging on ... just

[Oluwa]

To me, this is strange. One of the big things about DB is consistency. If you keep rearranging where you sleep, it becomes confusing. If you want to sleep in MBR, fine. If you want to sleep in another room, fine. But pick a place and be there. Otherwise, it seems like you are playing off of her.

Yes I agree, we haven't formally discussed inhouse separation and to be honest we are not truly separated we cook together, wash clothes, bank accounts, everything is as it is. Just that I "mainly" sleep in the Home Theatre. I have normally been sleeping in the HT only on weekdays, so she can sleep well, but last 2/3 weeks I have been in here all 7 days. So she will have noticed that shift of me reducing the frequency of watching TV with her without a doubt. She's probably pretty happy that I am out of her face.

Seriously? Why would you sit and 'stew' around her? Go out and do something else!

Yep! Fully aware of this!I get my mind in a funk and sit there mulling over how I can salvage the sitch, i.e. get her to answer my question, or make me feel better about the sitch. It makes no sense I know and shows her further weakness. But its still a hard habit to break after so many years. I haven't given up yet, but it is very tough to change.