She has a history of child abuse in her life and depression. We are going to counseling for a little over a month now and she thinks she met her soulmate and refuses to leave that R.
My situation is well-documented on here, so I will give you a little rundown. Yours sounds a lot like mine - my ex-W's abuse started very, very early in her childhood and continued into early adulthood. Every form of abuse you can think of and then some. Raped twice. Almost killed by an ex-bf.
Mine was like two different people. When she puts her uniform on she becomes a very different person. Out of uniform, she's weak and easily led. Suicidal thoughts abound. Has attempted twice.
Now, I know what everyone is thinking - why did I marry her knowing all this? Well, I knew none of it. None. And I only found out through certain means after she said she wanted divorce. Maybe that's why she approached me in that bookstore. Apparently she molds herself to fit what she thinks everyone wants...my (our) counselor suggested she did that for survival in early years.
Mine did the same as yours with her affair.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
