Getting a life is just that. Living your OWN life and not subject to anyone else. Least of all your spouse's. How you move on and get a life is the most crucial in my opinion. It sets the base for how you act on any new relationship and corrects many of the errors you brought to your marriage. It shows you that in a relationship you do not lose your individuality but bring something to the table and you are not just the wife/husband/partner of someone else.
Hi Max, Female here, but your post still spoke to me in many ways. I'm new here, but my sitch has been moving at warp speed so far so I'm focusing on GAL and moving on. It's hard to accept that my W wants nothing to do with me as her W as there is an OW. She definitely wants to cake eat in some ways, like wants to keep me as her best friend or friend at all, but I've made it clear to her that for me I can't be, nor do I have the desire to be, friends. I'm having to redefine myself as an individual, not a W and that's been difficult to focus on so far as it has only been 11 days since BD, but I'm working to get myself healthy again, going to therapy and trying to detach.
Thanks for all your words of wisdom. When I see so many here that have kept DBing for so long it helps refocus myself to stay the course.
Me: 35 W: 32 MR: 2y T: 3.5y SS11 BD: 11/3/16 EA: 10/26/16 PA: 11/11/16 W asks for S/D & ILYBINILWY 11/13/16 Status: I moved out 11/19/16, GAL I filed for D: 12/14/16 D-day: 3/10/17
