Don, I love him and am really enjoying him. If anything, he's a little further ahead than I am in the relationship thing, where I'm moving hesitantly, trying to make sure I understand him clearly and know who he is before I jump in feet first.
Our situations are very uneven because I have THREE kids and he has none. All the flex is on his side. We just finished a long conversation about how to kind of normalize our time together -- every other weekend things are frantic and there is a lot of decompression to accomplish, then it's normal for a tiny smudge of time, and then it's back to reality again. We'd like our time together to encompass more normality.
I hear what you're saying about the right guy on paper. I did give that a little thought when he and I first started dating because he is fairly far out of the box as far as "my type" goes. The things he brings to the table are really outside the realm of my experience and I value them enormously. The ways in which he doesn't conform to my prior experience are really positive.
You asked, how do I keep from being the person who says I'm not feeling it anymore, we're through... Mr. F and I went through a patch about 7 years ago where we both were not feeling it. I reached out to an old college friend who never reached back. Apparently Mr. F started sleeping around. I confessed and didn't do it again; he didn't. I thought about leaving, even though I had a preschooler, a toddler, and an infant... And I realized I couldn't be the sort of person who destroys a family. At that point I started really working on the marriage.
That's how I know I wouldn't just take off because I wasn't feeling it.
I have a lot of fears around My Guy. Judging him rightly is one of them. Understanding myself and my goals in a relationship is another. It's very, very important to me that neither he nor I gets hurt. When i start sounding shaky around here, it's because those fears have really reared up and gotten my attention.
Next Sunday is the one-year anniversary of our first date. I'm in love!!! I really am. But holy smokes it scares the he77 out of me.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
