where to begin or end?

[Rose888]

Ok i will try to keep that mindset if she comes back to that discussion. My initial idea was i wanted them for thankgiving dinner, and overnight christmas eve into christmas morning so they could have the whole santa cookies and bootprints. My wife saw that on my desk and texted me she wasnt interested in that option.
So is preventing her from taking more posessions without discussion controlling if ive already voiced my opinion? Im thinking of locking several rooms in the house, since she comes 2-3 mornings per week to get kids off to school

Have you consulted a lawyer? That veers into legal issues.

I would do a video or photo inventory that puts a date and time stamp on things, so you have proof that the stuff was in the house. I'd also keep a written record of what she takes and when.

[jade]

I have consulted a lawyer, twice. He obviously suggests i file to protect myself.
So far nothing extremely valuable has dissappeared.
I think she just keeps taking to see what will push me to file.
Cameras, crafting, board games, baking supplies, cookie sheets, halloween decor, candles... Etc all stuff that appears to only be going into storage because it wont fit in a camper.

[jade]

So yesterday my W had the kids and spent all day at OM parents house! Almost makes me sick, that anyone involved thinks this is a good idea. These are two impressionable kids! I dont know this person who my wife has become, completly unrecognizable to me. But thats why i hold onto hope, im certain that the affair has a stranglehold on her

[j20a00g]

So yesterday my W had the kids and spent all day at OM parents house! Almost makes me sick, that anyone involved thinks this is a good idea. These are two impressionable kids! I dont know this person who my wife has become, completly unrecognizable to me. But thats why i hold onto hope, im certain that the affair has a stranglehold on her

Last night my w took the kids to OM's house for ice cream. Yup! I was told that I have no right to say anything since it's her weekend with the kids. Before he was completely off limits around him and now she is doing this.

[jade]

Aint it something? Things that werent good ideas for us or kids are now ok! My wife wasnt keen on her mom watching our son full time if wife got a job cuz of her medical issues, now thats who watches him the most. Wife did not like the idea of selling our current house and living in camper 6-10 months to build a home in the country, now shes living in the camper with kids... Its crazy

[jade]

Its been pretty quiet in my new dim world. I tried to discuss flipping our kids weekends to match my moms, now shes open to it and 'needs' me to watch our kids this weekend. But when i laid out a plan, it didnt compute, so then i asked what she suggested and she went quiet for a few days, said she was gonna discuss on wednesday but didnt, but she did restate my original plan in question form on thursday to which i merely replied with OK.

Why is it whenever she shoots a thought down and i ask for an alternative, she goes blank.

Some days i feel like shes fast tracking her new life as a sort of DB effort. Only not working on herself, just filling a void.

[j20a00g]

Has to be her idea! It's the same with if she comes back. Has to be on her time

[jade]

Today she brought my son over, after they spent the day at OM parents house again. My son even commented that OM comments that they (my kids) are his. This only 4 weeks after meeting him. And they came in his car with him. Im pretty ignored my wife while she was inside my house. Her actions make me sick. I feel like tossing all our wedding stuff..

[jade]

Is purging a good healthy, detaching excercise. Like packing up all the wedding and relationship pictures and knick knacks. Before she decides to get rid of them?

[jade]

So ive kept my ring on through all of this. My question is should i take it off? At least in her presence if im not fully ready?