The cliff at the top of the mountain.

[DonH]

Sorry for filling up your thread here Ginger. It will son be time for a new one thanks in part to me and my sarcastic nonsense. That said, I do have to get a bit serious here on Doodler. While I totally get where you are at, two things hit me about what appears to be cancelling last minute on these dates. It's not fair to them and putting myself in their shoes it does concern me a bit. I remember the one from a month ago while you were away with the kids. You were going to bail on her but then you got back in time so you went. My point here is, I know it would bother me if this happened to me - actually it has and it does. I totally get you are not in that place to be dating, but to this lady, she was probably excited that this seemingly cool, fun guy named Doodler is going to the game with her - only last minute you bail. That's not nice. Part two of this is it seems to feed on itself - all of it. Guys or gals get cancelled on, stood up or ghosted so the behavior gets perpetuated. I totally see how that happens. It's almost like its become accepted behavior for online dating. I remember when it was considered wrong to break up with someone over the phone, then later over text. Now they don't even break up at all - just ghost the person away. I'm not talking you here Doodler, just in general. But back to you, if you're not ready to date, that's totally okay. If you are not into the woman because she just acts and lives like an old grandma, that's okay too. Nothing says you have to date everyone that messages you. BUT it's not okay to say yes and then bail last minute or hours prior. Think of Michelle being Ginger. Would you do that to her? So don't do it to strangers either. No wonder online dating is so hard and getting harder all the time. It's almost as if everyone has turned it into a platform where the rules of dating have gone out the window and nothing matters because it's just online - sort of like how people will put something on Facebook or in a comments section they would never, ever have the guts to say in person. As if, "it's not real, it's just online." Michelle is real and I can nearly assure you, regardless of what she said to you when you cancelled, she was bummed out and you just became her latest online dating story. You're better than that.

Okay and I'm done with that. Just had to put that out there. As I used for the title on my current thread, this used to be easier, and a whole lot more fun!