IC/MC will not speed up the process. Besides, he's no where near ready to even think about that. He doesn't think that there's anything wrong w/him at the moment. In some cases, the IC/MC will make matters worse because the MLCer is only going to hear what they want to hear and hopefully what they hear will tell them to leave the marriage and divorce the lbs. Some go to IC/MC just to please the spouse and only go once or twice.
The best thing is to just leave him alone. Like an addict or alcoholic, you can't help them...they have to want to seek help themselves.
I'm very sorry about your MIL. I'm not surprised that he's avoiding her. It's not just because she doesn't approve of what he's doing, but he see her as an old woman and the mortality reminder is there when he looks at her.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
