Sosad55 I know it's hard, but try not to take things like that personally. Of course he doesn't trust you. He is cheating and lying, why should he think that other people are still honest? Also he is probably paranoid about everything that's why he thinks you want to trap him. My H asked me to not "use his mum" as she was going through chemo. I never used anyone, let alone my sweet MIL. And anyway, that coming from her only son that chose to go on a holiday resort instead of visiting his mum during chemo (in the same country) and lied about his whereabouts at the same time, was a little rich in my opinion.
Anyway, try to not take it personally, it's not a reflection of your personality, just part of his delusional perspective.
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
