Don, I always love your honest input. Actually, it was a lot of your input that made me reconsider my way of doing things.
I am glad you bring up the self-imposed rule thing. I have never done anything conventionally on the dating scene at all. Whether I moved fast or slow, on the ones that ended (well, obviously they all did) it had nothing to do with that. I hear all about these rules, and I am a grown-ass woman who doesn't need rules. I need to go with what feels right for me. It felt right to go to his house for dinner. I regret not a thing! I did whatever I, and the imperative word is "I" felt good about.
This is actually the one guy where I am not only accepting what is given out. I figure I have nothing to lose. So I am very straightforward with him about my wants and anything I decide to do is because it felt right and good for me.
So, I've got only rule- do what's feels right for me.
This is a WHOLE new dating experience for me. Dating someone from scratch that no one knows, I wasn't friends with first, and wasn't a friend. Oh, and that lives 10 min away.
Like I said, it was cool to have a date and go home and not have to sleep over due to distance. I think it's cool we can go out to dinner tomorrow night. I think it's cool that even if I have a kid weekend, I can simply get a babysitter. I don't feel bad about it because I have her most of the time and she REALLY wants a babysitter.
We have no reason to rush things.
On that note, I guess I sort of understand where exNG comes from. The distance is hard. having someone closer is easier to date. I just thought we were the hard, he didn't. But it is what it is, and now, I get the chance to give a local, a start from scratch guy a whirl.
