Thanks for clarifying. I thought it was along thoses lines but I appreciate your explanation.
The threads I could not open were in the thread that regrouped resources and the titles indicated an out line of mlc phases. Another was mlc for dummies.
Many people here mention W is in anger or depression or other phase. And before commenting on their threads I wanted to freshen up my understanding. Plus will do me no harm to be more learned.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together