Need a fresh start...but he's still here

[lost18]

Thanks RAI. I've been saying for awhile he needs to figure himself out.

Things are going much better. We still have not had a conversation about our R, bits and pieces maybe, but nothing serious.

We spent a month up north over the summer. I had some expectations and of course was extremely disappointed. To the point where I knew if things continued the way they were going much longer I would be done.

He stayed up there about another month, I came back home and D15 started HS, D18 started at a local college. When he finally came home he was still so unhappy. My sister needed some help with her house so I told him to go help her. He asked if I was "ok" with that. I told him he was obviously miserable here and that he was making everybody around him miserable too and that he should go.

That is kind of when things changed. He came home 3 weeks earlier than I thought he would, said he missed us. We have been going out together and doing things. He even traded in his Harley for one that we can ride together comfortably.

There is still lots of work to do and I find myself falling into old habits sometimes. The lack of affection is hard but I was so patient for so long I'm not giving up now.