Thanks everybody for your comments. It helps me so much. I cannot wait for 2016 to be over - it has just been a crap year in every way!
Kml - shaving the junk?...sounds tricky!
Any ideas on how long these MLC affairs normally last? I've been told he acts like he's a puppy in 'love'. Can't imagine it's the real thing since he was well and truly in a messed up frame of mind when he started to see her...
I don't think he has any issues from childhood, just the failure of a company three years ago, fear of aging and I did catch him getting off while watching porn 10 months before BD and I went nuts/hurt/cried. I made him feel very bad about it but I thought we got over it, we talked a lot about it and he went for IC to try to stop. He was very loving for a long time after that. Now he tells people he went for IC to try and get out of his marriage. But then he also told my son that he went for IC to go through a program to stop feeling like a pervert...he says I called him a pervert...I don't remember that at all but have apologized many times to him if I did and, of course , I wouldn't have stayed with him if I truly thought he was one...but he still goes on and on about it. I feel very guilty about making him feel so bad about it because my IC told me that it was probably a stress coping behavior...he has brought up as justifying him leaving many times. Felt I was judging him! Is it just another excuse? xx
