I'm happy to read what job says about how MLCers can't deal with health issues and death.
I was shocked by my h's behavior when I lost my best friend from the primary school last December. H found me crying when he came home. Took me in his arms, said he was sorry but felt really uncomfortable. Before MLC he would cry with me... That day I went to bed earlier than him and when he came he saw me crying again and say "Bee, what is it? Is it because of that girl?". I will never forget that moment (and calling her "that girl"?!). I could not believe it was my husband next to me in that bed. And it wasn't really.
I will now try to look at that experience with different eyes. And you should try as well. Deep down she may expect from you to console her even if she plays it down.
