WW Wife - Do I confront her?

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She had a man waiting in the wings alright. I know this for a fact and that she is in a PA with him. She is still hiding it. I only wish she wanted to live the single lifestyle for awhile. That would be a dream compared to this.

I know that if she would have been single and alone in this separation, things would be very different now and I might not even be on these boards. But since she is in a full blown PA, I have not stood a chance from the start and didn't know it.

She never had to be alone in all of this. She walked right out of our old house and into the arms of the OM. That is what seems so unfair sometimes. She didn't have to go through this the same way I am. I have a hard time coping with that and that is where resentment starts to build up.

Something is being overlooked in this statement. Something you already know, but is hard to really accept. Applies to all the WAW, WW, MLC, whatever IMO. In her mind, she has already been alone. She felt alone in the M - now, this is her not feeling alone. Whether that be loosing 15 years and partying with the girls or dropping 10 years to live a runaway romance with some interloper that has low self-esteem equal to hers. She has already been alone and now is trying not be.

It is true, she is not going through this like you are. She has not figured out how to truly be alone, while you are trying to figure that out. The easy path was chosen by the WW, the hard path was thrust upon you. You can take the easy way anytime you want. Tell her to hit the bricks, file D, party on. That is clearly not what you want to do, you are here. Temptation exists. Coming here - you do stand a chance, you stand a chance for you.

What you and j20 said above "I want to be alone" and then going to the OM's arms. Its part of the script. I am BD + 9months w/ an MLC and while the things I hear have changed from the basic stuff above, some of the messages are more complicated, but feel the same. What is not the same is me.