One of my W's major complaints is that she's tired of waiting for me to step up and take responsibility for our life/family. For most of our marriage she was the "executive" of the family and handed down tasks to me. I became the 3rd child in the family because I never took the initiative to think about all the things in our life that needed attention (including our relationship). I waited for her to do it.
When the H becomes another child for the W, her attraction for him as a man is lost.
What are you doing to step up and take the position as the man in his home?
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So how do I continue to nurture these positive changes that she's noticing and detach at the same time?
Focus on being a manly male who is the leader of his family. You stop depending on your W. She does not want to be your mother. When a H leaves all the decisions to the W, it causes her resentment and a loss of respect for him as a man.
It doesn't mean you make big decisions without discussing it together as a couple, but you should have the lead. You should not have to ask her about every little thing, or wait on her (which is dependence) to make every decision.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
