Hello, I've been so thankful for all of the guidance I've gotten out of this site, as I am working through this issue with my WS. My WS and I are doing a trial separation starting Dec 1st, as soon as her apartment is available. My sitch is textbook...married 17 years, we are both 52, we are in great financial shape, physical shape, nice social network, pretty solid relationship...its our 2nd marriage. We had our share of stress.....raised my son from 1st marriage, which caused issues that she hasn't let go. She's been unhappy in some areas, but we always got along so well, I didn't think she have an affair.
She and I have been in counseling for a month of so now and everything is on the table. She is so deep in the fog on this that she is living with him while she waits for her place to come open. She is an accountant by trade and thinks she met her soulmate (typical)....he has 2 children from his first marriage, no retirement savings, he's introverted, has few friends....he's my exact opposite. Our counselor has us doing a trial separation with NC for 30 days while we attend counseling separately...then we will meet and see what's up and then another 30 days. This is hard to do, but there is no other way to have her experience D and her no life.
I am almost done reading DR and the Last Resort tactic seems to be bringing better results. Love to hear from anyone on what you think of my sitch.
Last edited by Cadet; 11/13/1610:21 AM.
M52 W52 M17 T20 SS 23 from my 1st M Lives on his own BD 10/01/16 Trial Sep 12/01/16
