New to the Boards. Marriage in Crisis.

[Chris73]

You guys all suck. I hate this tough love.

Kidding.

I appreciate all the insight. I certainly don't want to make things worse. My W and I are definitely in the friend zone at the moment.

One of my W's major complaints is that she's tired of waiting for me to step up and take responsibility for our life/family. For most of our marriage she was the "executive" of the family and handed down tasks to me. I became the 3rd child in the family because I never took the initiative to think about all the things in our life that needed attention (including our relationship). I waited for her to do it.

Last week in our first MC session she told the therapist that she has noticed positive changes in my behavior, but she's very hesitant to be optimistic because she doesn't think the changes will stick.

So how do I continue to nurture these positive changes that she's noticing and detach at the same time?

BTW, I gave my wife the "church" speech tonight. I'm pretty sure we're all going. She may change her mind in the morning, but I'm definitely going and taking the kids with me.

Good night all.