To confront or not confront cheating W?

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Thank you everyone! Can I ask what the term cake eating refers to? I assume it's the wife getting the best of both worlds from the marriage and A.

Bingo. Having your cake and eating too.

It's a win/win for her.

After being caught up in the post. Sandi said something in 1 line that sums it up I think. It's when she referred to knowing what your wife meant about you not listening/hearing.

I get the vibe that you don't really intend to do anything that you don't personally think will work and will end up doing what you want regardless of advice. This is certainly your right. You can do what's right or do what works. Your call. I'm just shocked this post is almost 7 pages of people telling you it won't be productive and could be detrimental and you are still leaning towards getting in that water.