Can't let every thing going wrong in your life make you think you have a bad life. That negative sentiment override is kicking in and will tear you apart.
Few things: We had a leak in the kitchen and had to redo it. It was at the worst possible time. I had just started a new job that required me to travel for training and Our oldest daughter just started walking. The leak was under the slab so we had to cut a large hole in the slab to get to it. Demolished kitchen (gutted), hole in the slab. Blowers everywhere trying to dry out the drywall, etc. you get the picture.
Truth is, I'm not sure there is ever a good time to go through that but, it did force us to get that new kitchen that we had always wanted and planned to eventually do. It was all worth it when it was done.
With regards to the family...since nobody stepped up, perhaps it would be a good time to say "due to the fact that our kitchen is being renovated, we can't host thanksgiving this year. Myself, H, and the kiddos will be going to _____ downtown for dinner this year. Everyone is more than welcome to join. Please let me know if you would like to be there so I can adjust the reservation."
Something else....if h's family didn't care, why would they voluntarily come?
If I invite to restaurant we will pay for them. They (4 siblings, plus each has a significant other, 2 nieces & MIL / FIL) have never paid for a meal out when H & I are there. They even go so far as to just pass the check to us or get up & leave.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
