Hi Chris, sorry to hear you're having a difficult morning. I would agree that the physical contact, while comforting to you, is probably done to pacify you. My W was still being affectionate and saying I love you as well, and I wasn't initiating, but we talked about it because i wasn't sure it was genuine on her part. She admitted it wasn't and that she was just afraid I'd complain if she didn't since she had initially agreed to work on us.
Since she has, through her actions, made it clear she didn't not intend to work on us, i have backed way off. It stinks, so I feel you on that, especially because now we've gone no contact so backing off feels like it has back fired. Even so it has only been one day of NC so trying to stick it out. I believe that anything besides backing off is pressuring and pursuing and the last thing we need to do right now is push our spouses away.
Just try to stay strong and keep posting!
Why do you think it has backfired? It's only been 1 day
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
