XW showing signs or just MLC script

[Irish M]

So XW has been texting me and emailing D's both different messages. To me its blame and regret .. to the D's its simply as if she did nothing to them.

Well handled. Except when she said she was going to do better with OM, I would have said "If he'll cheat WITH you he'll cheat ON you.

I had to laugh at this KML. yes I would of loved to reply that because I know it's true. I just try to avoid putting any kind of spot light on this OM. He has nothing to do with me.

But, for sure she's thinking about things. Maybe just a little peek out and maybe something more sustained, but who knows at this stage?

Hi Sotto. yes she is spinning. she goes from regret to blame to not commenting on my replies. Hopefully she works on it and it helps her along. Stages.. what are those. lol. When I first got here I read the stages and all the sitches to compare to mine. I think with MLC no one can ever tell you exactly what stage they are at because they bounce around them too much and most of it is done without our knowledge.

I would continue to validate her if for nothing else to help her healing to forgive herself-
I would be available only if she contacts you and not immediately..because you are busy with your own new life

I might also give some thought to offering her a way to reconnect with all of you

Hi Peace
Yes very good advice. Not much I can do either way. If it helps her connect then all the better for the girls. I'll still keep an eye out so they don't get sucked into a trap. If it really is a start she will have to do the work. I won't stand in the way unless my daddy senses start tingling.

She may be starting to want to reconnect to your daughters and given the time line it would not be all that surprising unfortunately for her your daughters are not going to make it easy .... I think it's a good thing and will force her to take a deeper look inward which would be beneficial for her

You know my girls quite well Cali. No it won't be easy. My D16 has told me that her mom will have to jump through hoops and walk on hot coals. No OM.. at all. She has her own list but i understand her not wanting MLC mom back. I pray XW does do the work. I'll be honest with you I never thought she could message the texts she has already.It wasn't in her character to open up. Some of her messages are words that I never heard before. Things she should of dealt with long ago she is now seeing.

I doubt you wanted to be when you got here, but you are truly an inspiration, Irish. I truly hope your ex can get whole again at some point and can reconnect with your daughters in a healthy way. I think that would be very good for your daughters in the long run.

Hi AJ. you first posted to me when I came over from the Newcomers side. You, Job, Cali, Cadet, KML, RD, Vanilla were and are my angels.

I agree, If not for me for my girls. They so need their mom. A healthy stable mom.

So another feral MLCer comes out when the LBS starts to truly move on. As someone else posted, part of the MLC script?

Not sure if it's that. But it was not my intentions. We will see what she has to offer and go one step at a time. I will tread very slowly and cautiously.
If it is that , then all it will say to me that she is panicking about plan B being gone. She has a lot more to lose than me. Her girls will distance themselves more and more as time goes by.

UPDATE-

Yesterday was quiet, no messages from XW to my daughters or myself.

I felt uneasy around 9PM, Had a horrible gut feeling of XW hurting herself.

In some of her texts she said just before BD she felt so much pain that she thought of ending her life. Instead she ran. I guess I was thinking of that and it made me worried. 3 full days of messaging me about her regrets, pains and then covering it all up again with blame to me and the girls. I got worried about her.

I haven't worried about her since before last Xmas.

Just after 9:15 I get a text from her.

The last 10 years wasn't fake. I do wish you happiness, I made a mess and rebuilt my life, I'm happy. Take care.

My reply to that was simple: I knew it wasn't fake but thank you for telling me. It means a lot.

She replies: I'm sorry I said that. I was mad at you and really sad to realize that I wan't loved or wanted by my family. I felt isolated. Even if you tell me today I was loved , I didn't feel it. It's sad where we are. You and the girls did't show me you cared when i needed it. My pain was too strong.
My cell battery is dying, I'm so tired. Good night.

My reply: I did let you go because I had to not that I wanted to. Good night.